夜雨聆风
Sometimes, when someone hurts me or offends me, I become very angry. I start wanting revenge because I want to hurt them back. At first, I thought revenge would make me feel better or happier.
But when I actually try to hurt someone back, I feel exhausted. Revenge takes so much energy from me. Instead of feeling happy, I only feel tired and heavy inside.
However, if I do nothing, I keep thinking about the situation again and again. The anger stays in my mind for a long time. This became my dilemma.
After thinking about it for a whole week, I finally found a solution for myself. If someone hurts or offends me, I will set boundaries and protect my peace. I will keep negative people and negative things outside my inner world. But unless it is truly necessary, I will not seek revenge.
I realized that protecting my own peace is more important than hurting someone back.
from 馆长
（馆长恰有同感，忍不住回复了）
Yesterday, I called an Internet technician from China Mobile to fix my internet and adjust the devices at my home. He spoke to me in a very loud and arrogant tone, probably annoyed at having to come out on a rainy day.
I only listened to him for two or three sentences before I told him straight: I don’t like your tone. I’m asking for help, not blame.
After that, He changed his way of talking and we had a pleasant communication and got all the problems solved.
I think my personal experience from yesterday kinda echoed @周 ' s sharing!
from 小喵
Thanks for 周’s wonderful sharing !
I was in a bad mood this weekend because last week I sold my stocks too early to get the benefits of subsequent stock price increases.
Note that I only earned less money instead of lost money. This experience let me think of a theory called "loss aversion" in behavioral finance.
The core point of this theory is that when people are profitable, they tend to be risk-averse, and when they lose money, they tend to be risk-seeking. Typically, investors hold loss-making stocks for a long time and sell profitable stocks too early.
This is exactly the same as my current situation: stocks that performed well were sold off early when they made a small profit, and those ultimately remained in my account were all the ones with significant losses.[破涕为笑]
To sum up, investing is too difficult, earning money requires violating human nature. I feel like I can't do it.
Lately, I've been reading Red Star Over China. One night, I reached a passage where Mao analyzed the war's future. Many admire his prophetic accuracy and his ability to defeat enemies through open schemes, but what struck me most was this line: China's development is uneven, while Japan is highly centralized—but we also have advantages.
That mindset hit me. I wrote:
"A mindset worth learning: rationally analyze strengths and weaknesses of both sides, but focus on one’s own strengths. I used to examine problems pessimistically, believing imagining the worst gave me control. But in reality, this pessimistic tendency only brings more internal friction and self-doubt. Pessimists are often not right; optimists tend to succeed."
Take my grad school exam. I was luckily admitted via transfer, but I had repeatedly worried: Is this the right path? But after reading this passage , my mindset changed—since I'm on this path, I'll make it the best path. I stopped complaining and scrolling through negative comments. Instead, I’ve been rethinking the core strengths of my current path, hoping to maximize them in the future
Hundreds of nights of hard study seemed powerless against a gentle wave of fate. After tossing me around, it gave back in a wonderful way—and for that, I'm grateful.I do not dare to say 人定胜天，however, I believe in 事在人为.
Very encouraging~
有一个小疑问， be admitted via transfer 是啥意思
（此处省略 N 条两人的subsequent互动）
A few days ago, Yiyun Li’s new book Things in Nature Merely Grow won the Pulitzer Prize. She wrote about her life after the suicides of her two young sons—Vincent in 2017 at sixteen, and James in 2024 at nineteen. I read one of the chapters published in The New Yorker last year. In that chapter, she described many detailed scenes, such as how she interacted with the police and her friends, and how she reexamined the objects full of memories of her sons and slices of life with her family. She stood there observing, piercingly and profoundly.
Sadly, this has continuously sparked controversy since its publication and her subsequent interviews. Some people criticize her composed writing, particularly when she is faced with her sons’ deaths. That reminds me of a mother in Wuhan, whose son was run over by a car and died on campus. She wore delicate makeup when facing the media's cameras, which was harshly criticized by some netizens. She could barely bear the immense sadness of losing her son alongside the cyberbullying across the internet, and eventually, she committed suicide a few days after her son’s tragedy.
I tend to think that different people have their own ways of expressing their sadness, even if they don’t publicly mourn. Extreme grief doesn’t necessarily lead to a visible breakdown. However, another post I saw claimed that rational observation could not replace intimate relationships and emotional attachment in a family. Parents have a responsibility to intervene in suicidal thoughts instead of just letting them happen. This triggers a lot of questions in my mind: Is one’s free will superior to life? Do parents have a responsibility to resolve their children’s pain, and what if children think death is the final cure? Honestly, I don’t have any answers right now.
hello，今天我想分享一下我最近的听力练习小故事（可能会稍微有点长 有空的话可以看看）
I want to share my recent experience with listening practice. After feeling like my skills had regressed last week, I decided to get back to training. I was completely overwhelmed after watching an English interview without subtitles and walked away with zero takeaways. That was my wake-up call—I knew I had to do something.
Reflecting on my past attempts, I realized why listening has always felt so tedious. Most of my practice happened under the pressure of exams. Even when I tried to keep the habit going afterward, my passion would always fade within months. I’d lose interest in the materials or simply lose the motivation to improve. Ultimately, I realized my old method just wasn't sustainable.
My previous method was to listen blindly, check the subtitles or transcript afterward, and repeat the cycle until my enthusiasm was completely drained. To fix this, I restructured my approach for an easier start. Now, I listen while reading the subtitles simultaneously. Instead of panicking over unknown words, I imagine myself exploring hidden jewels.
Surprisingly, I've noticed I'm getting really good at diagnosing why I miss something. Is it the vocabulary? My own pronunciation? Or a lack of background knowledge? The best part is fixing it immediately. If it's a new phrase, I take notes; if I'm pronouncing it wrong, I drill it on the spot; if it's new info, I just learn it.
This shift—from blaming myself for not understanding to enjoying the process of problem-solving—has been huge.This approach also helps me avoid the trap of hoarding materials. I no longer tell myself, 'I'll just listen now and review the details later,' which only leads to cognitive overload. I'm no longer anxious; I'm actually looking forward to the next round of shadowing. Honestly, The Economist materials are so much fun to work with. Can't wait to share more later!
from A
Curiosity is the best teacher !
“Instead of panicking over unknown words, I imagine myself exploring hidden jewels.” 这句太妙了
Recently, Jensen Huang’s visit to China with Donald Trump has sparked heated discussions. Today, I want to share my thoughts on his commencement speech to the exceptional CMU Class of 2026, which sets a very hopeful ambience.
Instead of writing a sad epilogue for human jobs, he sees a future where AI gives everyone the power to create.
From his tough early life to NVIDIA’s near-failure, we can easily deduce that real success comes from learning from mistakes. Huang points out that AI won't replace our human purpose. Instead, it is a helpful tool to solve intractable problems that were once too hard for us. While AI will relieve workers of boring, daily tasks, it will help us aim higher and do better work.
His best point is a simple warning: "AI is not likely to replace you, but someone using AI better than you might."
At the inception of this AI revolution, he tells students to use AI safely. By putting their "heart in the work," they should "run, don't walk" to shape this exciting new world.
周末好 Fay，I have written this note for a long time. In my mind, I have memorized about 6,000 vocabulary words. I can write notes like this easily, but the reality is not like that. I only know the words, but I can’t use them well. Now I realize that output is important. From now on, I will change my learning style.
Recently, I have been preparing for the entrance exam. Daily life is dull. I'd like to share a new tool that I recently learned about. This tool is related to AI applications. Before, I still used ChatGPT and Gemini, but during this period they were unstable. At that time, DeepSeek released “V4 Pro”. I searched for some methods to use it. The best way to use it is to deploy it in Cherry Studio. Domestic AI is not lagging behind the rest of the world. And the price is cheap compared with ChatGPT or Gemini.
Are you interested in Marxist philosophy or modern Chinese history? If you'd like to learn about them, I can share some of my thoughts on weekends. Although I am still learning, my understanding is still rather limited.
Hi Dylan，
DeepSeek is also an important “friend” and study tool for me as well. I have set up my vocabulary world map with DeepSeek and named it "Gem Dossier" because learning new vocabularies is like a scavenger hunt and all the vocabularies are as precious as a gemstone.
I totally concur with u that knowing a word and being able to deploy it are tow different things. I believe true credence only comes from output even sometimes is not easy.
You asked if I'm into Marxist philosophy or modern Chinese history? Totally! I'm a master of public administration so those two are literally the ground I stand on. I'd love to hear your take. And don't worry about "limited understanding." We'er both still learning and feeling. That's kinda the whole point.
