#生活约会软件刷累了,越来越多人开始在“领英”上找对象@罗兰

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清楚利落的证件照，清晰明了的学历与职业经历……“领英”这个原本只谈工作、禁止谈情说爱的职业平台，正因为这些交友网站不具备的优势，开始频繁上演“暗度陈仓”的交友戏码。来“领英”寻找缘分的人被这里的哪些独特之处吸引？这个看似甜蜜的趋势，是否潜藏危机？

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LinkedIn Has Accidentally Become a Dating Site—Despite Its No-Romance Rules

尽管明令禁止用于恋爱，“领英”却阴差阳错成了一个“约会网站”

By Celia Bernhardt

❶Tired of the endless roulette of online dating, more people are looking for love on LinkedIn.

厌倦了线上约会没完没了的“轮盘赌”，越来越多的人开始在领英上寻找爱情。

❷While the platform's guidelines strictly forbid any kind of romantic advances, it's increasingly common for the networking site to feature—directly or indirectly—in users' dating lives.

尽管该平台的准则严格禁止任何形式的求爱示好，但它却正在用户的恋爱生活中越来越频繁地扮演重要角色——无论是直接地还是间接地。

❸A deepening exhaustion with dating apps has pushed many to look beyond swiping. Singles are trying speed dating, connecting through shared real-world interests and even using spreadsheets to break their dating algorithm. It shouldn't be a surprise that a public-facing platform with clear headshots and ample information about a person's path in life—everything dating apps today seem to lack—has become a go-to tool in the modern search for love.

人们对约会软件越来越深的倦怠，正促使许多人开始寻求右滑左滑之外的途径。单身一族正尝试速配约会，通过现实生活中的共同兴趣来建立联系，甚至有人自制电子表格，从而打破约会算法的束缚。所以领英这样一个用户头像清晰、有着详细个人生平信息的公开平台成为现代人寻找爱情的首选工具，就并不令人意外了，因为这些特征恰恰是如今的约会软件没有的。

❹Dating coach Jaime Bronstein is a proponent of using LinkedIn with ulterior motives. But a first message should always be platform appropriate, and never obviously romantic.

约会教练杰米·布朗斯坦（Jaime Bronstein）主张带着“别有用心”的目的使用领英。但第一条消息必须符合该平台的规范，一定不能流露明显的浪漫意味。

❺She suggests crafting messages that offer the pretense of networking while preserving ambiguity. Three pickup lines to avoid: "Are you single?" (Aggressive, potentially creepy); "I hope this isn't too weird, but…" (Don't plant any ideas); "You're gorgeous!" (Also potentially creepy; don't lead with physical appearance on a professional platform).

她建议打磨既像在职业社交、又能保持模糊性的信息。以下三句搭讪用语应避免使用：“你单身吗？”（有侵略性，可能让人感到不适）；“希望不会让你觉得太奇怪，但是……”（不要留下想象空间）；“你真漂亮！”（同样可能让人感到不适；在职业社交平台上，不要以外貌评价作为开场白）。

❻Of course, none of this is condoned by the networking app itself. "Our focus is on making sure that people are safe from unwanted romantic advances," a LinkedIn spokesperson said.

当然，领英这个职场社交应用并不认可这些操作。领英的一位发言人表示：“我们的重点是确保用户不会遭到不受欢迎的示爱行为的骚扰。”

生词好句

1.accidentally 英 [ˌæksɪˈdentəli] 美 [ˌæksəˈdentəli] adv. 意外地

The movie Niulai accidentally became a hit. 电影《牛来》意外走红。

2.no-romance rules 不能用于恋爱的规定

romance n. 恋爱，爱情

an office romance 办公室恋情

no-smoking policy 禁烟令

no-fly zone 禁飞区

3.roulette 英 [ruːˈlet] 美 [ruːˈlet] n. 随机性强、风险很高的事；轮盘赌

Every blind date feels like a game of roulette. 每次相亲都感觉像在玩轮盘赌。 Russian roulette 俄罗斯轮盘赌

4.guideline 英 [ˈɡaɪdlaɪn] 美 [ˈɡaɪdlaɪn] n. 准则，指导原则

5.forbid 英 [fəˈbɪd] 美 [fərˈbɪd] v. 禁止

6.advance 英 [ədˈvɑːns] 美 [ədˈvæns] n.（本文）求爱，追求；前进

She politely declined his romantic advances. 她客气地拒绝了他的追求。

7.networking 英 [ˈnetwɜːkɪŋ] 美 [ˈnetwɝːkɪŋ] n. 社交，拓展人脉

8.to feature in something 成为重要部分，占据一席之地（to be an important part of something）

feature（本文）v. 成为重要部分，占据一席之地；n. 特征，特点

This cat features heavily in my memes. 这只猫在我的表情包里出镜率极高。

9.exhaustion 英 [ɪɡˈzɔːstʃən] 美 [ɪɡˈzɔːstʃən] n. 倦怠

10.push somebody to do something 促使某人做某事

push v. 促使，逼迫

The smell of pizza pushed him to abandon his diet. 披萨的香味迫使他放弃了减肥。

11.look beyond 把目光放更远、超出普通范围（look past）

beyond my understanding 超出我的理解

12.swipe 英 [swaɪp] 美 [swaɪp] v.（手机屏幕上）滑动

13.speed dating 速配

speed reading 速读

speed shopping 火速购物

14.spreadsheet 英 [ˈspredʃiːt] 美 [ˈspredʃiːt] n. 表格

15.break 英 [breɪk] 美 [breɪk] v. 破解

break the code 破解密码

16.It shouldn’t a surprise that … 某事怎样也就不足为奇了

It shouldn't be a surprise that China has developed so rapidly. Look at how much it has invested in infrastructure, education, and technology. 中国发展得这么快，也不足为奇。毕竟看看它在基础设施、教育和科技上投入了多少就知道了。

17.ample 英 [ˈæmpəl] 美 [ˈæmpəl] adj. 充分的，充足的

ample opportunity 充足的机会

ample evidence 充分的证据

18.go-to 英 [ˈɡəʊ tuː] 美 [ˈɡoʊ tuː] adj. 首选的，必找的

In fact, Red Note has become the go-to search engine for young people. 小红书成了年轻人实际上的首选搜索平台。

19.proponent 英 [prəˈpəʊnənt] 美 [prəˈpoʊnənt] n. 支持者

20.ulterior 英 [ʌlˈtɪəriər] 美 [ʌlˈtɪriər] adj. 隐秘的，不可告人的

拉丁语ulter-表示“在……之外”

ulterior motive 不可告人的动机

I'm helping you without an ulterior motive. 我帮你就是单纯想帮你，没别的意思。

21.appropriate 英 [əˈprəʊpriət] 美 [əˈproʊpriət] adj. 恰当的，合适的

age appropriate for children 适合小朋友的 occasion appropriate 符合某个场合的

22.craft 英 [krɑːft] 美 [kræft] v. 精心制作

She carefully crafted her Instagram caption. 精心琢磨了自己的Instagram文案。

23.pretense 英 [prɪˈtens] 美 [prɪˈtens] n. 伪装、虚伪的表象

pretend v. 假装

He made a pretense of being interested. 他装出一副很感兴趣的样子。

24.pickup lines 搭讪的话术，开场白

25.aggressive 英 [əˈɡresɪv] 美 [əˈɡresɪv] adj.（本文）直接的；咄咄逼人的；主动的，积极的

aggressive marketing tactics 雄心勃勃的营销策略

an aggressive tone 咄咄逼人的语气

26.creepy 英 [ˈkriːpi] 美 [ˈkriːpi] adj. 令人不安的，心里发毛的

a creepy person 一个怪人

27.plant 英 [plɑːnt] 美 [plænt] v. 种下（想法）

That fact-checking post planted a seed of doubt in my mind. 那篇打假帖在我心里种下了一颗怀疑的种子。

28.lead with 用……开头、开场

He led with an apology. 他一上来就先道了歉。

29.condone 英 [kənˈdəʊn] 美 [kənˈdoʊn] v. 容忍、包容、纵容错误行为（to accept or allow behaviour that is wrong）

Violence shouldn't be condoned. 暴力不能被容忍。

30.be safe from 免遭……的影响、侵害

I just want my cat to be safe from harm. 我只希望我的小猫平平安安，不受伤害。

31.unwanted 英 [ʌnˈwɒntɪd] 美 [ʌnˈwɑːntɪd] adj. 不受欢迎的，不需要的

英文原文

LinkedIn Has Accidentally Become a Dating Site—Despite Its No-Romance Rules

By Celia Bernhardt

@The Wall Street Journal

Aug. 19, 2026 5:30

When Rachel Wong saw the connection request pop up on her LinkedIn, she didn’t know what to think.

An alum of her then-workplace, Sam Sawchuck noted they likely had mutual friends and colleagues. He’d love to grab a coffee. He also admitted, apologetically, that he’d first seen her on Tinder.

Was this a date?

Tired of the endless roulette of online dating, more people are looking for love on LinkedIn.

While the platform’s guidelines strictly forbid any kind of romantic advances, it’s increasingly common for the networking site to feature—directly or indirectly—in users’ dating lives.

About one in four professionals believe using LinkedIn as a dating tool can be acceptable, according to a survey by Zety, a resume-template platform. And 22% said they had either reached out or responded to someone on LinkedIn with romantic intent.

“Unfortunately I did show the request to all the people at my workplace,” Wong laughed.

It ended up serving her well; her colleagues vouched for Sawchuck’s character. And after scanning his LinkedIn profile, Wong saw that he ran in similar professional circles and seemed ambitious. Plus, he was cute.

She accepted Sawchuck’s request and, keeping things professional, asked if he would help her think through a problem at work.

Now, years into dating, the couple are venue-shopping for a wedding.

“If it was LinkedIn, so be it,” Wong said. “I mean, he’s been the best connection I’ve ever made.”

A deepening exhaustion with dating apps has pushed many to look beyond swiping. Singles are trying speed dating, connecting through shared real-world interests and even using spreadsheets to break their dating algorithm. It shouldn’t be a surprise that a public-facing platform with clear headshots and ample information about a person’s path in life—everything dating apps today seem to lack—has become a go-to tool in the modern search for love.

Dating coach Jaime Bronstein is a proponent of using LinkedIn with ulterior motives. But a first message should always be platform appropriate, and never obviously romantic.

She suggests crafting messages that offer the pretense of networking while preserving ambiguity. Three pickup lines to avoid: “Are you single?” (Aggressive, potentially creepy); “I hope this isn’t too weird, but…” (Don’t plant any ideas); “You’re gorgeous!” (Also potentially creepy; don’t lead with physical appearance on a professional platform).

Of course, none of this is condoned by the networking app itself. “Our focus is on making sure that people are safe from unwanted romantic advances,” a LinkedIn spokesperson said.

After Esme Gordon-Craig’s internship ended, she took to LinkedIn to follow up with a colleague, suggesting they continue their conversation on career paths over drinks. He chose a pub near the office.

Once they were outside with a pint, “he was kind of like, ‘This is a date, isn’t it?’” Gordon-Craig said. “And I was like, ‘Yeah.’”

The 24-year-old Londoner, now working remotely as a freelance journalist, still frequently uses LinkedIn to make connections—professional, social and maybe more—that she doesn’t have easy access to without a team or an office.

“If there’s a spark, then it’s great,” Gordon-Craig said. “And if there’s not, then it’s just a good networking opportunity.”

The site can also be a useful vetting tool.

Katie Istomin, a rising sophomore at Cornell, wants to make sure that anyone she’s giving up time for will match her ambition and understand her busy schedule.

“LinkedIn kind of solves that for you,” said Istomin, who checks prospects’ majors and club involvement. “You know where they’re going, that they’re high-achieving—stuff like that.”

Just don’t expect to fly under the radar while you’re checking someone out. The site alerts users when someone has viewed their profile—which can either help or hurt your dating plans.

One of Istomin’s sorority sisters started a burner account so they could assess pages without giving anything away.

“LinkedIn’s low-key a snitch for that,” Istomin said about the alerts.

San Diego-based financial adviser Amal Hagisufi was simply recruiting for an empty role on her team when she sent a connection request to Moustafa Madkaur.

“Being in banking, I got these recruitment messages all the time,” Madkaur said. Initially he ignored her efforts. “But she’s very persistent.”

So he responded that the office, 40 minutes across town, was too far away.

But when Madkaur later came across Hagisufi while swiping through the dating site Plenty of Fish, he reconsidered.

Going back to her LinkedIn profile, she seemed “career focused, looking to grow as a person,” he said. “And you kind of got a feel that she was possibly looking for someone else to start building and growing with.”

Madkaur sent a new message over LinkedIn, this time with his phone number. He told Hagisufi he still wasn’t interested in the job, but had seen her on a dating site and if she wanted to go out sometime, she should shoot him a text.

“It was way more smooth than the way I had been previously approached on the dating apps,” Hagisufi said.

And, it turns out, a date is a much better motivator for making the trek across town.

Madkaur took Hagisufi to a waterfront restaurant where they discussed professional, financial and personal life goals. “Everything was aligning,” Hagisufi said. “We knew that we wanted to grow together and become, like, a boss couple.”

Original Date of Publication: Aug. 19, 2026