夜雨聆风When you tend to talk too much, people undervalue what it is that you bring to the table, which means being too talkative can lead to issues with socializing and making friends. But how to be less talkative?
16 . When the other person suggests that they want to talk, do something to show that they have your full, undivided attention. Close the book you're reading or put down your phone and face your body towards them with open arms to show them that you’re ready to listen.
Think before you respond.
Always try to think twice before you speak. 17 , think about questions to ask that can grant you clarity. Avoid saying more than you have to be by taking a moment to reflect after the speaker asks you for your opinion.
Only speak on something when it is appropriate.
Discuss what makes sense and try to stay away from examples that may seem irrelevant, unreasonable, and ambiguous 18 , if you don’t know what you want to say. For example, “What does this mean? Who can we hold responsible, how, and why?” This encourages others to speak more.
Keep conversations balanced by asking questions.
In balanced conversations, people say what they have to say. Rather than talking until something comes up, balance the conversation by saying things like “Enough about me. What do you think?” and “I know we’ve been talking a lot about my opinion, I want to hear your opinion, too!” If you have a question about something or need clarification, don’t interrupt the person while they’re talking. 19 .
Practice staying on topic by challenging and recording yourself.
Record yourself talking and see if you start to depart from the topic. 20 . Once you’re able to do that, try to make your point in 30 seconds. This exercise can help you stay on topic and avoid wandering.
A．Observe body language
B．Show your willingness to listen
C．Ask more investigative questions
D．If you are confused about the topic at hand
E．If you find yourself interrupting others or talking over them
F．Instead, wait for them to finish their thought and then respond
G．If so, challenge yourself to make your point in under one minute