AI女友,正在让真实恋爱变得更难 | 新闻周刊

AI Girlfriends Are Already Making the Dating Scene Harder, Therapists Warn

AI女友正在让约会变得更困难，心理治疗师发出警告

Artificial intelligence is changing how Americans date, and therapists are warning it could affect how people connect and experience intimacy.

人工智能正在改变美国人的恋爱方式，心理治疗师警告称，这种变化可能影响人们建立联系和体验亲密关系的能力。

Newsweek

By Suzanne Blake

June 16, 2026 | 666 words | ★★★☆☆

AI companions, often called “AI girlfriends” or “AI partners,” are already altering expectations around dating by offering a form of connection that removes many of the emotional risks of real relationships. A recent study from Vantage Point Counseling found that 28.16 percent of U.S. adults say they have had at least one intimate or romantic relationship with an AI, while more than half report some kind of relationship with an AI system.

被称为“AI女友”或“AI伴侣”的人工智能陪伴工具，正通过提供一种规避现实恋爱中诸多情感风险的连接方式，改变人们对恋爱关系的期待。Vantage Point Counseling最近的一项研究发现，28.16%的美国成年人表示自己至少与AI建立过一次亲密或浪漫关系，而超过一半的受访者称自己曾以某种形式与AI系统建立过关系。

“AI girlfriends and boyfriends do not set a realistic standard for a healthy relationship,” Alexandra Cromer, a licensed professional counselor with Thriveworks, told Newsweek. “AI boyfriends and girlfriends sell a fantasy or a narrative of reality that is not based in any sort of real, grounded reality and healthy interpersonal connections.” The rise of AI romance could signal a deeper shift in how people experience connection and what they expect from relationships.

Thriveworks持证心理咨询师亚历山德拉·克罗默在接受《新闻周刊》采访时表示：“AI男友和AI女友并不能为健康关系树立现实的标准。它们兜售的是一种幻想，或者说是一种脱离真实生活和健康人际关系基础的虚构现实叙事。”AI恋爱的兴起，或许预示着人们体验情感连接以及期待亲密关系的方式正在发生更深层次的转变。

AI companions are designed to be responsive, agreeable and emotionally available at all times. While this may feel satisfying in the short term, therapists say it can distort expectations of real partners, who inevitably bring their own needs, limitations and boundaries. Therapists say the appeal of an AI companion is straightforward: AI partners can simulate connection without the unpredictability of human behavior. “AI partners can feel easier because they give people a sense of connection without the same fear of rejection,” said Dr. Michael Salas, a licensed professional counselor-supervisor at Vantage Point Counseling.

AI伴侣被设计成能够随时回应、始终配合并持续提供情感支持。虽然这种体验在短期内令人满足，但心理治疗师指出，它可能扭曲人们对现实伴侣的期待，因为真实的人必然拥有自己的需求、局限和边界。专家认为，AI伴侣之所以具有吸引力，原因其实很简单：它能够模拟亲密连接，却无需面对人类行为中的不确定性。Vantage Point Counseling持证督导咨询师迈克尔·萨拉斯博士表示：“AI伴侣之所以让人感觉更轻松，是因为它能提供情感连接，却不会带来同样程度的被拒绝恐惧。”

Unlike human relationships, AI interactions offer immediate responses, constant availability, validation, and attention. Users can also customize the AI’s tone and personality, creating a relationship with minimal risk of rejection or conflict. “The appeal of an AI partner is that you can have immediate access and ultimately control over your romantic partner,” Cromer said. “It's a very one-sided relationship and the AI partner doesn't require anything from you, which we know to be unhealthy and unbalanced in human dating relationships.”

与人际关系不同，AI互动能够提供即时回应、全天候陪伴、持续认可和高度关注。用户还可以根据自己的喜好定制AI的语气和性格，从而建立一种几乎不会遭遇拒绝或冲突的关系。克罗默表示：“AI伴侣最大的吸引力在于，你可以随时获得它的回应，并且几乎完全掌控这段关系。这是一种高度单向的关系，AI伴侣不会向你提出任何要求，而在人类恋爱关系中，这种不平衡和不健康的状态显然是有问题的。”

While AI partners may feel like an easier alternative, therapists warn that real-life dating can seem increasingly difficult by comparison. “Dating teaches people that attraction is not control,” Salas said. “If someone gets used to romantic connection where the other side is always available and adjustable, real dating can start to feel unnecessarily difficult.” Human relationships involve mismatched expectations, emotional discomfort, and rejection, but therapists argue that these experiences are essential for building healthy relationship skills.

尽管AI伴侣看起来是一种更轻松的替代选择，但心理治疗师警告说，与之相比，现实中的恋爱关系可能会显得越来越困难。萨拉斯表示：“约会会让人明白，吸引力并不意味着控制权。如果一个人习惯了对方永远在线、永远可以调整的恋爱模式，那么真实的恋爱关系就会显得格外艰难。”而事实上，人与人的关系本就伴随着期待落差、情绪不适以及被拒绝的可能，但治疗师认为，这些经历恰恰是培养健康亲密关系能力所必需的。

“The long-term risk is less about tech and more about atrophy,” said generational expert Bryan Driscoll. “When something meets your emotional needs without pushing back, your tolerance for the messiness of real relationships can erode.” “If someone starts comparing real partners to a system designed to respond perfectly, real intimacy can look flawed,” Salas added. The trend is not limited to single people. The Vantage Point study found that 53.34 percent of respondents who reported an intimate or romantic relationship with AI were already in a committed relationship with another human.

代际研究专家布莱恩·德里斯科尔表示：“长期风险与其说来自技术本身，不如说来自能力的退化。当某种存在能够满足你的情感需求，却从不提出异议时，你对现实关系复杂性的容忍度就会逐渐下降。”萨拉斯也补充说：“如果有人开始拿真实伴侣与一个被设计成完美回应的系统进行比较，那么真实的亲密关系看起来就会显得充满缺陷。”值得注意的是，这种趋势并不仅限于单身人士。Vantage Point的研究发现，在那些表示曾与AI建立过亲密或浪漫关系的人中，有53.34%当时本身就已经处于一段稳定的人际关系之中。

“The question couples need to ask is not only, ‘Did anything physical happen?’” Salas said. “They also need to ask, ‘Are we keeping emotional or sexual intimacy hidden from each other?’” The impact may be even greater among younger generations. A separate Vantage Point Counseling poll found that 72 percent of U.S. teens have used an AI companion at least once, and about one-third have used them for social interaction, emotional support, or romantic-style conversations. Therapists say adolescence is a critical period for learning how to navigate relationships. While AI can provide comfort and companionship, relying on it too heavily may reduce opportunities to develop real-world social skills.

萨拉斯指出：“伴侣之间需要思考的问题不仅仅是‘是否发生了身体上的接触’，还应该包括‘我们是否向彼此隐瞒了情感或性方面的亲密互动？’”这种影响在年轻一代中可能更加明显。Vantage Point Counseling另一项调查显示，72%的美国青少年至少使用过一次AI伴侣，其中约三分之一曾利用其进行社交互动、情感支持或带有恋爱性质的交流。心理治疗师指出，青春期是学习如何处理人际关系的重要阶段。虽然AI能够提供安慰和陪伴，但过度依赖它，可能会减少年轻人培养现实社交能力的机会。

As AI companions become increasingly sophisticated, experts believe the key question is whether human relationships can compete with systems designed to never argue, never reject, and never demand understanding in return. “What I'd watch is a generation getting fluent in relationships that demand nothing, then struggling with the ones that demand everything,” Driscoll said. “A society that outsources its connection is harder to engage, harder to retain, and lonelier than any metric will show.”

随着AI伴侣日益智能化，专家认为，一个关键问题正在浮现：人类关系是否能够与那些永不争吵、永不拒绝、也从不要求被理解的系统竞争？德里斯科尔表示：“我真正担心的是，一代人逐渐熟练于经营那些毫无要求的关系，却在面对那些真正需要付出和承担责任的关系时举步维艰。”他进一步警告说：“一个把情感连接外包给技术的社会，将变得更难建立真实互动、更难维系关系，也会比任何统计数据所能呈现的更加孤独。” ■

According to the passage, one major concern about AI companions is that they ______.

A. are too expensive for most people to afford

B. may create unrealistic expectations about relationships

C. cannot provide meaningful emotional support

D. are primarily used by teenagers

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